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September 20, 2005
Decide Already pt 2
My dad asked my mom for a divorce after a fight about his prolific berry gathering. For some reason they together decided to call my sister in Miami to tell her this and cry a bit on the phone. After their strange call to my sister they seemed to hover on the edge of divorce, but decided not to mention it to either me or my brother. When we called everything seemed normal. "do you want to talk to your mother?"
"Sure, I guess."
"I don't know where she is. I know she's not cleaning the house, though."
"Well, if you find her let her know I called."
After a recent talk with my mom it seems she was frequently unable to find my dad at times, either. She claims she "knew" he was in the house, but couldn't find him anywhere inside. She says she looked around the house, even going into his private lair in the basement, a room filled with disassembled computers, movies, piles of empty wine bottles, a small "herb" garden aided by a grow-light and any number of other things. She apparently never went into the closet back behind the room where she only recently found a bed made of rolled up carpets and some old sheets. That find, however, was after my dad's second divorce demand. That one coming two weeks after the first and an hour or so after my dad sought my brother's advice.
To that demand, and the other turmoil in her life - becoming unemployed one of the others - my mother claims to have acted calmly and reasonably. I have reason to doubt that.
My first reason is, I know the woman, and she doesn't react calmly to anything. (Example - During a trip to Washington DC in the late 80s I found a police baton on the street and wanted to keep it as a souvenier. After touching it she screamed and visibly wrung her hands for hours -- "Brian, you probably have AIDS now!" -- before returning to her more subdued, usual, freaking out.) The second reason is that I've talked to them about fights they had in the ensuing weeks. "Your dad was so drunk..."
"Then your mother started bithcing about something."
"He just had this crazed look on his face."
"She doesn't listen to a god damned thing."
"He took a gun out."
"You know how she is."
"It was loaded and he cocked it. I saw."
"Fuck. If she would just get out and do something instead of sit around at home she might be happier."
"How can you not be depressed and put a loaded, cocked shotgun to your head?"
"How else am I supposed to get your mother to listen to me? I've got to do something drastic. It's theater."
"He's been telling me for weeks about how I'll have to clean his blood off the ceiling."
Posted by calculatoronfire at September 20, 2005 09:39 AM
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Clarifications:
They didn't call Sonja together, she called and mom was all freaky (more than usual) so she dug out of dad that he had asked for a divorce.
Dad wasn't sleeping on carpet, he was sleeping on camping pads. The man may be crazy but not that crazy
The grow light were only in service until the world thawed enough to plant his tomatoes and peppers.
Dad didn't ask for a divorce a second time after talking to me, he informed your crazy mother that I agreed with the idea of them getting a divorce. His two options for me were divorce or suicide...which would you pick.
Finally, tomorrow I have to spend 3 hours with your crazy mom. I think I would rather commit suicide and she will have to clean my blood and brains off the ceiling!!!
Posted by: Nick at September 20, 2005 05:30 PM